Conform Or Transform: Marriage

Romans 12:2–3 (ESV)
Do not be conformed to this world, but be TRANSFORMED by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.
Truth is not an excuse to be mean. Truth without compassion is judgement. Truth without grace will kill us all. 
Don’t win the argument and lose the relationship. 
2 Chronicles 7:14 (ESV)
14 if MY PEOPLE who are called by my name HUMBLE THEMSELVES, and PRAY and SEEK MY FACE and TURN FROM THEIR WICKED WAYS, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.
 1 Corinthians 6:9–11 (ESV)
Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality,
10 nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.
What would happen if we stopped using the Bible as a window to judge others and turned it as a mirror to evaluate ourselves?
James 1:22–25 (ESV)
22 But be DOER of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.
23 For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a DOER, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror.
24 For he looks at himself and goes away and at once forgets what he was like.
25 But the one who looks into the perfect law, the law of liberty, and perseveres, being no hearer who forgets but a DOER who acts, he will be BLESSED in his doing.
The Bible is a standard to live by not a stone to throw.
Matthew 19:4–6 (ESV)
 He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
If I have a transformed mind, I will choose God’s truth over my feelings. 
Sexual purity is sex between a husband and a wife and no one else. 
When we allow our feelings to dictate our behavior we CONFORM to the world and open the door to chaos and sin. 
Proverbs 14:12 (ESV)
12 There is a way that seems right to a man, but it’s end is the way to death.
Temptation is not sin. Sin is sin. 
Hebrews 4:14–16 (ESV)
14 Since then we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus, the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. 15 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in EVERY RESPECT has been TEMPTED as we are, yet without sin.
16 Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
Because Jesus was tempted like I am tempted, I can live as Jesus lived. 
Jesus is a greater Savior than we are sinners.